[Love] bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:7-8. NKJV.)
In addition to reading THE EXCELLENT WIFE by Martha Peace…yes, I am still plugging along at it despite many interruptions…I have also decided to dabble in THE LOVE DARE by Stephen and Alex Kendrick. It has some excellent things to do for your spouse daily just to show how much you love him. Two of my personal favorites thus far are:
1) Make two lists (one for the positive things about your husband and one for the negative things). Thank your spouse for one thing on the positive list and burn the negative list.
2) Give in to an area of conflict and tell your husband you are putting his preference first.
These are only a couple of the many great (and often creative) ideas to bless your “one flesh”. Some of the gestures mentioned in this book are probably things you already do on a daily or weekly basis but others are quite imaginative and of which I never would have thought. Not to mention it will keep your hubby at the forefront of your mind and heart (whether he deserves it or not).
Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show by good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth. This wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic. For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace. (James 3:13-18. NKJV.)
James 1:21: Therefore put away all filthiness and rampant wickedness and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls.
Romans 2:8: but for those who are self-seeking and do not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness, there will be wrath and fury.
Jeremiah 17:9: The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked;
Philippians 2:3: Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.
Romans 13:13: Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality, not in quarreling and jealousy.
James 1:17: Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.
1 Timothy 4:1: Now the Spirit expressly says that in later times some will depart from the faith by devoting themselves to deceitful spirits and teachings of demons,
1 Corinthians 2:6-7: Yet among the mature we do impart wisdom, although it is not a wisdom of this age or of the rulers of this age, who are doomed to pass away. 7But we impart a secret and hidden wisdom of God, which God decreed before the ages for our glory.
Hebrews 12:11: For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
Luke 6:36: Be merciful, even as your Father is merciful.
Proverbs 14:29: He who is slow to wrath has great understanding, but he who is impulsive exalts folly.
Romans 12:9: Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good.
Proverbs 11:18: The wicked earns deceptive wages, but one who sows righteousness gets a sure reward.
Isaiah 32:17: And the effect of righteousness will be peace, and the result of righteousness, quietness and trust forever.
Hosea 10:12: Sow for yourselves righteousness; reap steadfast love; break up your fallow ground, for it is the time to seek the LORD, that he may come and rain righteousness upon you.
Matthew 5:9: Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.
Galatians 6:8: For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.