Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” ― C.G. Jung
I believe I started reading the 1993 publication GIRL, INTERRUPTED by Susanna Kaysen when I was a child advocate. It is the memoir of a teenage girl who spent some time in a mental hospital and introduces readers to various personality disorders. One of the main characters is Lisa who is diagnosed as a sociopath. If memory serves, she is quite the challenge (behaviorally) for fellow patients and staff members alike.
In order to try and comprehend the disposition of Lisa, I looked up the Hare Psychopathy Checklist which includes:
Personality "Aggressive narcissism"
Grandiose sense of self-worth
Lack of remorse or guilt
Shallow affect (genuine emotion is short-lived and egocentric)
Callousness; lack of empathy
Failure to accept responsibility for own actions
Case history "Socially deviant lifestyle".
Need for stimulation/proneness to boredom
Poor behavioral control
Lack of realistic long-term goals
Early behavior problems
Revocation of conditional release
Traits not correlated with either factor
Promiscuous sexual behavior
Many short-term marital relationships
Acquired behavioural sociopathy/sociological conditioning (Item 21: a newly identified trait i.e. a person relying on sociological strategies and tricks to deceive).
Lisa's conduct would be very frustrating for me. And I would have to have serious strength through Christ to endure any sort of relationship with her. But what does that tell me about me? Would I be wise not to engage with Lisa or judgmental? further, if Lisa had a spouse, what would his responsibilities be under God's law? Would it be to help Lisa or protect their children? --- (In the book it is mentioned (at some point) that Lisa is seen with her son.)
Turn Away From It And Pass On
There is nothing listed in God's word (in the 10 commandments or anywhere else) that gives clear instruction for dealing with Lisa. What does one do with someone who habitually lies, deceives, keeps secrets, steals, and uses others as tools for selfish gain instead of maintaining relationships? Would Proverbs 4:14-17 be the best course of action?
14 Do not enter the path of the wicked,
and do not walk in the way of the evil.
15 Avoid it; do not go on it;
turn away from it and pass on.
16 For they cannot sleep unless they have done wrong;
they are robbed of sleep unless they have made someone stumble.
17 For they eat the bread of wickedness
and drink the wine of violence. (Proverbs 4:14-17. ESV.)