But as for you, teach what accords with sound doctrine.....and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. (Titus 2:1, 4, 5 ESV)
"Working at home!?" But that means (more or less) giving up all that I have planned for myself! In essence, "dying" to myself!
Truly, truly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit. Whoever loves his life loses it, and whoever hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life. If anyone serves me, he must follow me; and where I am, there will my servant be also. If anyone serves me, the Father will honor him. (John 12:24-26 ESV)
You know, I'm going to be honest here...I always thought this scripture meant the physical death. That we must die, our bodies must deteriorate before we can be a new creature in Christ. But I look to the cross reference to help me understand:
You foolish person! What you sow does not come to life unless it dies. And what you sow is not the body that is to be, but a bare kernel, perhaps of wheat or of some other grain. But God gives it a body as he has chosen, and to each kind of seed its own body. For not all flesh is the same, but there is one kind for humans, another for animals, another for birds, and another for fish. There are heavenly bodies and earthly bodies, but the glory of the heavenly is of one kind, and the glory of the earthly is of another. There is one glory of the sun, and another glory of the moon, and another glory of the stars; for star differs from star in glory. So is it with the resurrection of the dead. What is sown is perishable; what is raised is imperishable. It is sown in dishonor; it is raised in glory. It is sown in weakness; it is raised in power. It is sown a natural body; it is raised a spiritual body.... If there is a natural body, there is also a spiritual body. I tell you this, brothers: flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God, nor does the perishable inherit the imperishable. Behold! I tell you a mystery. We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed, in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, and the dead will be raised imperishable, and we shall be changed. For this perishable body must put on the imperishable, and this mortal body must put on immortality.... The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. (1 Corinthians 15:36-44, 50-53, 56, 57 ESV)
Good grief! What does all that mean?! Okay, from what I understand, we are to die to ourselves. I am to give up what I want, and crave what God and Christ Jesus desire! Part of which, includes me giving up a career and instead, "working" in the home. I yearn to contribute! I long to help hubs provide! But, God's word says, I am "to love [my] husband and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to [my] husband". That is to what I am called.